Finding Your Voice

If you are having problems thinking up a subject to write about or wondering how to express it, just think of the last time you had a lively conversation with a friend. You were comfortable, you were natural, you were inspired and you were satisfied with the experience. Now, conjure up this friend in your mind and think of something that has been on your mind, and imagine yourself directing it toward that friend. This is the model you can always refer to when you are in a block.

The reason it is so easy to talk to friends is because we feel accepted ahead of time, so we can focus more energy on the subject itself instead of the presentation. You can always go back over the words you write down while using this technique, and correct the grammar later. The important thing is that you were unfettered sufficiently to put out an entire concept and come to a conclusion. It is a process which requires a continuity of energy. We learn what we have to say as we say it.

If you enjoy making conversation with people, you probably already are in the habit of sounding off to imaginary listeners. It is the way we choose what words to use which will help us understand even our very own thinking. It defines what we want to say. Once we have a clear path for what is to be expressed, the momentum alone will carry through to the finished thought process, and then all that remains is to go over the mechanical aspects of the writing.

What recurring observation has been present for most of your life? What is your reaction to the things you hear on the news, or read about in magazines. Where has your analytical mind taken you regarding a number of topics? What makes you mad. What are you interested in researching. The time has never been better, with the internet, to instantly access and learn about anything we choose.

When we write fiction, there are rules about showing the reader instead of telling, and so it is necessary to create a metaphor to communicate any idea. With non fiction, we can just get right in there and tell it like it is. It is a liberation for us, and a reinforcement to ourselves of who we are. Think of a friend, think of something that is or was on your mind, take up the keyboard and talk to that person. You will surprise yourself. Hey, at least no one is going to disagree with you.

Olga Moe, age 59, lives on an island in the Puget Sound. She is recognized mainly for her contributions to literary e-zines but recently has begun writing articles as well.

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Reviewers vs. Bloggers- The Controversy

Reviewing has been a hot subject among kidlit bloggers lately, ever since the magazine n 1 came up with an article about a week ago which criticized—though not in such direct terms—bloggers of not being objective, honest enough with their reviews, of not posting enough negative reviews and of lacing their positive reviews with facile praise. The main question seems to be: is it possible to be unbiased in a cozy environment where the people who post friendly comments under the bloggers’ posts are often the same people who request reviews from these bloggers? In other words, is it possible to be objective in the blogosphere, where authors, publishers, publicists, reviewers and librarians are in friendly terms with each other in such blog communities as Live Journal?

In a perfect world a reviewer should never review a book by a person he/she knows. But, as usual, more often than not, what is ideal in theory is not realistic in the real world, and this ‘sin’ is not only committed by bloggers, but also by legitimate reviewers who write for online and print review publications.

Another issue seems to be the lack of format which many (maybe most?) bloggers have when writing reviews. Unlike the ‘legitimate’ reviewers who seem to have a preference for a ‘standard’ structure—an interesting lead/opening sentence, a short summary of the plot without ever giving away spoilers or the ending, and an intelligent, fair, tactful evaluation—the bloggers write about books anyway they want. They have the freedom to write in any length or style without a thought to format—even to the point of giving away spoilers or relating the ending of a book. This freedom comes with the territory of being a blogger. But then, the questions arise… Are bloggers ‘real’ reviewers? What defines a review? After all, there are many types of reviews—academic and long, light and short, and snippets like those in such publications as Library Journal. Different review sites and publications have different guidelines. Are blogger reviews a new, different type of review? Should we draw a distinction between bloggers who are simply readers and post ‘reader reviews’ and ‘legitimate’ reviewers who post ‘real’ ones on their blogs? After all, just like on Amazon, there are reader reviews and reviewer reviews. Are bloggers the lowly counterparts of legitimate reviewers? Is this an elitist attitude?

I find these questions fascinating because I think there are no easy answers. As usual, opening a discussion about what is right and wrong is like opening a can of worms.

A couple of years ago, this dilemma started with the emerging online review sites… I remember how librarians and bookstores often dismissed them as ‘not legitimate’. Online review sites have come a long way. Now it’s the bloggers who are being attacked.

Ultimately, I think we’re not giving enough credit to the discerning reader of reviews. It’s so easy to tell a good review from a cheesy one guilty of facile praise! There are good and bad reviewers everywhere. Serious blogger reviewers aren’t going to be stupid enough to post overly positive reviews because if the reader buys a book based on that review and then finds that book to be poorly written, that blogger will lose all credibility and that reader won’t come back to this blogger for more reviews. Honesty and fairness go with our job as reviewers, without it, we’re nothing but weak, cheap publicity. That is not to say we should be nasty or mean… which brings me to the writing of negative reviews…

I personally think there are too many good books out there to be spending time writing about the bad ones (even negative reviews are a type of publicity!). Unless it’s a book that has been written by a famous author and/or heavily hyped, I won’t bother posting negative reviews on my blog and newsletters (this wouldn’t be the case, however, if the book was assigned by a review site/publication, in which case I wouldn’t have a choice but to write the negative review).
One thing the blogging technology has done is bring books and literature closer to the public and, let’s face it, the average person is so busy and/or has such a short attention span that long, insightful reviews are not the most practical thing in the world. Blogger reviews are like quick tasty treats of information for people on the run who enjoy reading about books. In the end, and in spite of the ‘slippery’ questions mentioned above, I’m all for anything that brings literature closer to the public.

Mayra Calvani is an author and book reviewer. Visit her website at mayracalvani.com mayracalvani.com She is the author of the forthcoming book, THE SLIPPERY ART OF BOOK REVIEWING.

Professional Speaking – Getting Started

It&amprsquo;s natural to start thinking about getting paid to speak once you have a few successful engagements under your belt. But how do you get started? Here is a fast and easy way to move from free to fee in the arena of public speaking.

Set your fees. Start thinking about how much you would like to get paid right now. It doesn&amprsquo;t matter if it is $100 or $10,000. If you don&amprsquo;t have a figure in mind, you will not be prepared when the invitations come.

Business Mindset. Speaking may not seem like much to you, but it is a valuable skill. Most can&amprsquot or won&amprsquot speak. If you take a nonchalant approach, that is the same type of response you will get. View your speaking ability as a business, not just a talent. Put speaker or presenter on your business card and contact information. Build your brand.

Follow Up. If you&amprsquo;re good, every speaking event will provide more events. People will come up after you&amprsquo;re done and say, &ampldquo;We would love to have you speak for our group. Would you mind if I called and talked with you about it?&amprdquo;

Do not wait for the call. Get the person&rsquos contact information and you call. Pursue the business.

Publish. Write articles for trade journals and magazines your audience reads. Get in front of them in print and you have a much better chance of getting in front of them from a podium.

Use your byline to “advertise” your services as a speaker. At minimum provide an email address for interested readers to contact you.

Plan. Believe it or not you can become a instantspeakingsuccess.com/profit.htm″ target=”_blank professional speaker just by accepting invitations and payment. But you won’t flourish that way. You need to set goals for your market, amount of availability, fee structure, and desired income. Then work it.

Paul Evans is the creator of the Instant Speaking Success Profit System. When he began speaking he went from $0-$1000 in just four engagements. His system details the process. InstantSpeakingSuccess.com/profit.htm InstantSpeakingSuccess.com/profit.htm

188 Stage Hero’s Journey (Monomyth) - Story, Screenwriting Structure -The Last King of Scotland (200

FORWARD

The 188 stage Hero’s Journey (Monomyth) is the template upon which the vast majority of successful stories and Hollywood blockbusters are based upon. In fact, ALL of the hundreds of Hollywood movies we have deconstructed (see URL below) are based on this 188 stage template.

Understanding this template is a priority for story or screenwriters. This is the template you must master if you are to succeed in the craft.

[The terminology is most often metaphoric and applies to all successful stories and screenplays, from The Godfather (1972) to Brokeback Mountain (2006) to Annie Hall (1977) to Lord of the Rings (2003) to Drugstore Cowboy (1989) to Thelma and Louise (1991) to Apocaplyse Now (1979)].

THERE IS ONLY ONE STORY

THE 188 STAGE HERO’S JOURNEY:

a) Attempts to tap into unconscious expectations the audience has regarding what a story is and how it should be told.

b) Gives the writer more structural elements than simply three or four acts, plot points, mid point and so on.

c) Gives you a tangible process for building and releasing dissonance (establishing and achieving catharses, of which there are usually four).

d) Tells you what to write. For example, at a certain stage of the story, the focus should be on the Call to Adventure and the micro elements within.

ABRIDGED TIPS, EXCERPTS AND EXAMPLES:

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*****New World of the First Threshold*****

Entry. Upon entry into the First Threshold, some marked characteristics are noticeable.

Polar Opposite. The New World of the First Threshold is markedly different from the Hero’s Ordinary World; it is usually the Polar Opposite of the Ordinary World. In The Matrix (1999), the world of the machines is nowhere like Neo’s normal World. In Goodfellas (1990), the World of the gangsters is the polar opposite of both Henry’s and Karen’s parent’s World. In Dances with Wolves (1990), Fort Hayes is quiet and uninhabited. John Dunbar has just come from fighting in the civil war.

Unfamiliar Creatures and Behaviours. The New World is full of unfamiliar creatures, people, behaviours, colours etc. In The Matrix (1999), Neo breaks free from his pod to find humans in pods and machines farming them. In The Last King of Scotland (2006), Uganda and Ugandans are totally new to Nicholas.

*****Antiheroes and Romantic Challenges*****

Where the Hero evolves, the Antihero devolves. So it is not unusual to find that the Antihero starts off with a close personal relationship that devolves (whereas the Hero most often starts off with a polarized Romantic Challenge that gradually evolves). In The Godfather (1972), Michael and Kay are initially close but their relationship devolves toward the end. In Scarface (1983) Tony and Elvira ultimately separate.

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Speech Introduction: How to Write a Speech Introduction

A speech introduction has one main goal: to focus the attention on your central idea by making a clear statement and previewing your main ideas. Write the introduction part of your persuasive speech after you have finished your thesis statement and the supporting points and arguments.
Only than you are able to summarize the thesis in one attention grabbing sentence.

The goals of an speech introduction are: introduce your topic, yourself and the purpose of your speech. Make them want to hear the rest of your speech.

1. A good speech introduction is the same as making a good first impression.
So, greet you audience and hosts, look at them, take a breath and then immediately catch the attention with a smashing oneliner. That first line contains your claim or assertion.

Examples of speech openers:

Ask a thought-provoking rhetorical question and directly answer it with your claim.
State an amazing fact or statistic they probably never have heard of.
Offer a stirring example.
Cite a quotation or funny remark that describes the situation you are going to talk about.
Make an very controversial statement.
Tell a compelling anecdote nobody knows.
Give a definition of an expert to enhance credibility. But be creative in defining your ideas.
If you are dealing with demonstration speech topics then show the object of you speech.

2. State the thesis or central idea. Draw the contours of the topic in a few direct and clear sentences.
Help your public to fully understand the context.

3. Tell why the issue is worthwhile to think about.

4. Introduce and preview your main supporting points, view and ideas in one short sentence each.

5. Tell why they have to know the in’s and out’s. Tell how the speech topic idea relates to the the needs and interests of the audience.

6. List a major benefit.

7. Now that you have told you message and aroused interest, it’s time to establish your credibility.
Introduce yourself and your background expertise in one or two sentences.
State how the theme relates to you, by showing your enthusiasm or expertise.

Then use a transition sentence to head for the body part and the main supporting points of your speech-topics-help.com/persuasive-speech-topics.html persuasive speech topics.

The length of the introduction paragraph has to be in balance with the total length of your speech.
If you talk for let’s say two or three minutes, then don’t write an extended speech introduction.

Jim Peterson has over 10 years experience on speech writing.
He offers 1,250 free speech topic ideas and how-to guides for any kind of public speaking and speech writing assignments at speech-topics-help.com speech-topics-help.com.

Copyright 2006 Jim A. Peterson

Author VS Co-Author

I am often asked what it was like to co-author a novel, “Was it difficult? “Was it fun?” These questions are usually followed by, “I’m thinking of writing a book with my friend. Should I, and do you have any tips for us?”

Just as we are all individuals, unique and complex, so is each co-authorship. The dynamics involved will vary from partnership to partnership, and no one can predict the success or lack thereof of any joint venture. However, there are aspects that should be considered before venturing into a project with another individual.

First, you must ask yourself why you wish to co-author instead of completing your work as an individual. Is fear stopping you? Is it lack of expertise in a subject matter such as murder investigation? Or is it a weakness in certain aspects of writing, for example, dialogue?

If it is fear, then rethink your wish to bring someone else into your project. Eventually, one of you might feel that you are doing a major portion of the writing, and your project may suffer because of those feelings. Rather than trying to hitch your star to someone else’s wagon, try your hand at going it alone. Learn the mechanics of creating a book, begin writing, find a proofing buddy to help with punctuation, grammar and those pesky typos that creep into every book. You can do this! You can create your own star. You just have to try.

Now, let’s say that you feel you are capable of writing a book on your own, but, gosh, you’ve always wanted to write a crime thriller. You’ve got a great plot all worked out, some intriguing characters in mind, but you know nothing about the investigative process or courtroom procedure. Your friend, however, is a detective, and has been dying to write a book. You now have a valid basis for co-authoring a novel. This partnership should be entered into exactly as any other joint effort.

Write a Contract You wouldn’t open a store, for instance, investing your time and money, and then turn over half of everything to another person, would you? Of course, you wouldn’t. Nor would you put your heart and soul into a literary effort without some kind of understanding. Sit down with your partner and write out a contract. Lay out the parameters of what each of you will and will not do. Here, a code of ethics is created by both of you. This policy would cover such things as, not altering the work without both parties in agreement, not claiming credit for each other’s work, no interview conducted without the consent of both individuals.

Put Your Ego Aside Your finished product will be your “baby,” the result of a joint effort, and you are both the parents. Always put your work first, and your ego second. If you have written a scene that you are just busting with pride over, but it does not fit in your book, accept the fact that the scene may have to be re-written or possibly cut completely. The same rules will apply to your partner. Don’t expend energy into who has written more, or less, or who has done this or that. Work together and always keep what is best for your “child,” uppermost in your mind.

Create a Solid Outline Together An outline is a road map, which will get you from point A, your killer first paragraph that grabs the readers’ attention, to point B, the windup. Your objective is to keep their interest, keep them turning the pages until your final chapter. This will cause your reader to search the book stores, eagerly awaiting your next publication.

Design your outline in such a way, that your book will flow in an organized manner. Although the outline may change, never alter it without the consent and collaboration of your partner.

This is the time to decide who will tackle which aspect of writing. Obviously, if your partner is an expert in a field that you are not, they will write scenes using that expertise. If you are better at dialogue, then you may wish to do the major work in that area. Some chapters may be written exclusively by you or your co-author, and others may be a joint effort. Just keep in mind that it is a dual effort, and the book comes first.

Use Character Sheets Create these sheets to help you and your partner keep track of your characters’ attributes. Include such facts as height, weight, hair and eye color, likes and dislikes, basic characteristics, etc. Pick out a celebrity that both of you can use, so that whoever is writing about that particular character will have a picture in their mind.

Talk About Your Characters Discuss them as if they are truly alive. “Do you think Diedre would do this? What would be her motivation?” My co-author and I would meet for dinner. Our servers became curious enough to ask who was so ill, thinking we were discussing real people. That is how it should be. If they are living and breathing to you, then they will come alive to your readers.

Get Together Often You have to discuss your work frequently. As often as possible, meet physically to review your progression, and assess any changes that need to be made. Talk about your book regularly.

Hire an Editor Neither of you should edit your own work or each others. Hire a professional to edit your book. An outsider’s view will benefit your “baby,” and will assist you and your co-author in making important decisions and changes together. Part of an editor’s task is to help different styles of writing, blend together and flow smoothly.

Respect Your Co-Author You’ve finished your project. It has been edited, and you’ve found a publisher. The book is for sale. You have interviews lined up. Now is the time to share in the glory.

Again, this was a creation of two minds (and sometimes more). Respect your co-author. Don’t fall into that nasty habit of glorifying yourself. Praise the book. Praise the people who helped you. Praise your partner. Never, never take any special credit, or be guilty of self-aggrandizement. Your book will suffer if you discount the efforts of anyone involved.

Do Your Homework Take out books written by co-authors. Compare chapters and see if you can tell who wrote what. I would suggest, for starters “Motion to Suppress” by Perri O’Shaughnessy, the sister team of Mary and Pamela O’Shaughnessy, and “The Talisman” by Steven King and Dean Koontz.

Good Luck! Whether you co-author, or decide to tackle your project alone, good luck! I wish you every success in your endeavor.

Best Seller Author, Debra Shiveley Welch was born in Columbus, Ohio and has lived in the Greater Columbus area all of her life. She now resides in Westerville with her husband, Mark, and her adopted son, Christopher, also a published author.

Debra is the author of three books: A Very Special Child, a Best Sellers in English at Amazon Japan children’s book, Christopher Bullfrog Catcher, written by her son at eleven years of age, and scribed by Debra, who also wrote its introduction, and Jesus Gandhi Oma Mae Adams, Debra’s first novel, co-authored with Linda Lee Greene, which recently made AuthorsDen Best Sellers at Amazon. All are available through Saga Books sagabooks.net/ sagabooks.net/ and at Amazon amazon.com/ amazon.com/

Currently Debra is writing “The Adoption of Christopher,” an autobiography, chronicling a woman’s profound journey to the adoption of her son, and “Christopher’s Family Table,” a companion cook book to “The Adoption of Christopher,” which she is co-authoring with her son, Christopher Shiveley Welch.

Debra can be reached at DebraShiveleyWelch.net DebraShiveleyWelch.net

Writing the Dramatic Truth

A hallmark of powerful fiction is writing that rings true in a potent, vivid way. Writing rings true in a novel because the storyteller has provided a context for the truth of a novel, generally through setting out a story’s promise. Without that context, a story’s readers are forced to memorize details until the details have a clear sense of meaning. After a few pages, this lack of contact makes reading many unpublished novel manuscripts a chore, not a pleasure.

Christy Yorke in her novel Magic Spells offers a great example of how to begin a story with the introduction of a promise. This powerful novel opens with these sentences.


At one time, when Alex was two and she was just beginning to panic about his lack of speech, she had thought she could love words into him.

This sentence speaks to a mother’s dramatic truth, that she has a son with a disability and she wanted to believe she could somehow heal him with the power of her love. The sentence raises the question, why did the son fail to develop the power of speech? Would her love be enough to heal him?

In one sentence, Christy Yorke has set out the promise of the story and established a context for everything that follows. The rest of the novel unfolds from this first sentence. The purpose of the first sentence of a novel is to give the reader a reason to read the second sentence. Most unpublished authors fail to do that.

Second sentence…


But she, more than anyone, knew what a risk it was to pour all your love into one body. Tragedy, when it came, had only one place to strike.

These two sentences suggest the mother’s loss and raises the questions, what tragedy stuck her life, and to whom did she give all her love? A reader is being drawn forward to get the answer to these questions.

All that love had done nothing. In almost seven years, Alex had not said one word. Jane had taken him to every doctor on the East Coast, but she knew they would not find anything. She knew what had happened. Alex had gotten her life by mistake.

These sentences begin to develop an answer about the son’s inability to speak, and raises the question of what the mother might have done that her son would suffer this problem. It also speaks to the great tension she feels around finding a cure for his problem. She is a dramatically driven character. If the mother were indifferent to her son’s problems, the novel would fall apart immediately.

He had nightmares while her dreams were black as space. He felt guilty over something he didn’t even know about.

The author continues to develop the idea of some past tragedy, and the impact it still has on the mother. The language here is beautifully lyrical and descriptive, and it also rings true.

Alex was riding off down Sycamore Lane. “Don’t go too far,” Jane yelled. “Don’t go on the highway.”

These sentences foreshadow what tragedy befell the mother, and her concern about keeping her son close. The author also gives the mother a name. First, Christy expresses a truth about her main character, then she begins to offer some details. Struggling writers generally start with the details ahead of establishing a context for what they mean.

He had already turned the corner. Jane looked down at her clenched fists. She wondered when the day would come when she wouldn’t imagine all the horrific things that could happen to him when he was out of her sight. She wondered when he would stop squeezing her heart, or when she would cure him the way a mother should, with a snap of her fingers, just like that.

This passage sets up the plot question of the novel, when and how the son will find his voice, and how the journey to that place will squeeze the heart of his mother with greater and greater force. The story question for the novel, about finding healing, is clearly presented.

This story opening has powerfully set the story into motion.

Christy is an author who knows how to get to the real heart of her characters. Her latest novel, The Secret Lives of the Sushi Club, is another great demonstration of how to write the truth in a novel. I highly recommend both novels to anyone who would like to study the craft of storytelling by reading the work of a published author.

Bill Johnson is author of A Story is a Promise ( storyispromise.com storyispromise.com) and office manager of Willamette Writers ( willamettewriters.com willamettewriters.com).

Online Article Sites and Teen Super Star Writers

Occasionally, a teen or young adult writer writes something great and wonderful? Perhaps it is a short story, a bit of philosophy or perhaps something that they are very acquainted with. What if an online article website allowed teens to post their best works for all to see? Would this be too burdensome on the staff of an online article site? Maybe, although certainly some of the top notched up and coming writers in Junior High and High School turn out some awesome works of writing.

Not all Teens should have all their work on MySpace Alone. Some have some brilliant pearls of wisdom, worthy of mention and if you have the top one’s on an online article website, you are feeding the next generation of writers and getting them to shoot for something. Perhaps an online article website could propel a professional writing career?

Indeed it seems that if we fail to allow the young up and coming article writers of tomorrow to post their works on the Top online article submission websites of today then we will be missing a great opportunity for the future and perhaps some click-ad revenue as well. It would seem short sided to dismiss this writing sector or deny them the credit they deserve as often much of their writing is so much better than the Article Marketer who writes trashy content only to attract lots of traffic. Consider all this in 2006.

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188 Stage Hero’s Journey (Monomyth): Origin of Backstory

The Hero’s Journey (Monomyth) is the template upon which the vast majority of successful stories and Hollywood blockbusters are based upon. In fact, ALL of the hundreds of Hollywood movies we have deconstructed (see URL below) are based on this 188 stage template.

Understanding this template is a priority for story or screenwriters. This is the template you must master if you are to succeed in the craft.

[The terminology is most often metaphoric and applies to all successful stories and screenplays, from The Godfather (1972) to Brokeback Mountain (2006) to Annie Hall (1977) to Lord of the Rings (2003) to Drugstore Cowboy (1989) to Thelma and Louise (1991) to Apocaplyse Now (1979)].

THERE IS ONLY ONE STORY

THE HERO’S JOURNEY:

a) Attempts to tap into unconscious expectations the audience has regarding what a story is and how it should be told.

b) Gives the writer more structural elements than simply three or four acts, plot points, mid point and so on.

c) Gives you a tangible process for building and releasing dissonance (establishing and achieving catharses, of which there are usually four).

d) Gives you a universal structural template upon which you can superimpose your situational story. This is why stories such as Alien (1979), Gladiator (2000), Midnight Cowboy (1969), American Beauty (1999), The Graduate (1967) and many others (all deconstructed at the URL below) appear to be different but are all constructed, almost sequence by sequence, in the same way.

and more…

ABRIDGED TIP(S):

*****Origin of Backstory*****

The Hero embarks on the Journey and Transformation, not to gain a capacity, illumination, power or balance, but to regain it. It is not the attainment of a capacity that helps the Hero conquer his (or her) challenges but the reattainment of it. The backstory should be viewed as the moment when that capacity was lost and everything that led up to this point.

As such, the backstory is often where the Hero’s Inner Challenges are made explicit. In Silence of the Lambs (1991), Clarice’s story really begins with the lamb (which she recites to Lecter). In Midnight Cowboy (1969), Joe Buck’s story begins when he is abused and his girlfriend is raped. In An Officer and a Gentleman (1983), Zach’s story begins when his mother commits suicide.

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Don’t Let Your Public Speaking Nerves Embarrass You

It’s embarrassing for the nervous speaker and it’s embarrassing for the audience - those awkward, horrible moments when something goes wrong, something embarrassing happens. They are an experience neither the audience nor the speaker wants to have to endure.

Here are four situations where you can smooth out those embarrassing moments … and a powerful strategy to use in the future.

1. The mental blank

That terrible moment when someone loses complete track of what they are saying - there is a blank, their face drops, and then becomes more and more frantic. This is painful not only for the speaker but for the audience. Develop a strategy now so that if, despite your best preparations, a blank happens, you have something to say. You could remark, “Oops I’ve lost it” and maybe you can add some appropriate humour (“Must have left the speech in front of the mirror!”) and then add something like “Now where was I?” Look at your notes if necessary – “We were talking about …” If it’s really bad, ask the audience. Whatever strategy you use along these lines, you keep the audience, and yourself, moving on, returning to target and none of you is embarrassed. So if you fear the blank moment, be prepared with a strategy that will allow you to deal smoothly with the situation.

2. The audience is bored

It’s a moment that nervous speakers dread – to realise that most of your audience is bored. They’re glassy eyed, maybe even falling asleep, chatting or texting on their mobile hones. Horrors! Worse still and more embarrassing is the presenter who becomes frantic, attempting to regain attention. Avoid the whole situation if you can by ensuring you have variety wired into your presentation, and have something up your sleeve that you can move into if necessary. Introduce a new visual. Involve the audience. Change your stance, body language or walking pattern. Stop. Stand still. Whatever you use, it will become a smooth, professional piece of your presentation instead of a situation that embarrasses you and your audience.

3. Dry mouth

Do you have a persistent dry mouth? Then take a glass of water with you. Before the speech, organise a place to put it and then choose a time where you can drink without interrupting the flow of your speech. Incorporate this into the planning of your presentation and your visualisation of your successful presentation. If it does interrupt, then find a way to explain it, incorporate it, or joke about it.

4. Those other embarrassing physical symptoms

The same applies to anything else you expect might embarrass you or detract from your speech. If you cannot overcome the physical symptoms in the lead up to the speech, then these are the ones you need to develop strategies for. And use this same set of tactics for any other symptoms like blushing or shakes –if they detract from your speech – find a way to

explain it,

incorporate it
or joke about it.

Then you will have defused any embarrassment that you feel or your audience feels.

In all of these situations where you might make mistakes or have a mishap, there is one underlying powerful principle that works to avoid embarrassment:

“It doesn’t matter what happens. What matters is how you deal with what happens.”

It really does not matter!. The embarrassment for everyone lies not in the event itself, but in how you respond to it. So instead of being embarrassed, respond, instead, with professionalism and confidence. Be as prepared as you can for whatever may arise, and be prepared to explain, incorporate or joke if something does happen. Then you will have been able to deal with it, confidently and professionally - without embarassment.

The added bonus? You are reducing your nervousness and increasing your confidence in the process.

Bronwyn Ritchie has 20 years’ experience speaking to audiences and training in public speaking - from individuals too nervous to say their own names in front of an audience, to community groups and corporate executives. You can get her free tips, articles, resources and quotations for your public speaking and presentations in a fortnightly ezine - mailto″subscribe@consultpivotal.com?subject=subscribe_psezine_a subscribe to Pivotal Public speaking - the ezine. Or visit the consultpivotal.com/public_speaking.htm Pivotal Public speaking web pages.

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